Leadership, Management & leadership

The Pleasure and the Pain

You can choose your friends... but not your colleagues.

*This book was voted as number 5 on the Guardian list of “Five must-reads for charity workers”.

How can you be a good workmate? Even more challenging, how can you be a good boss?

This informative but irreverent book offers you the key skills for working as part of a team, tackling prejudices (including your own) and how to make your working life run more smoothly.

It features years of research into how people interact in teams, along with examples and advice for working together more effectively.

You’ll learn how to identify what makes people tick, and how to play to their strengths to get the job done. You’ll turn the sometimes painful process of working with people into a real pleasure!

Who should buy this book?

Anyone who works in teams, particularly if you’ve found it difficult working closely with other people or need to manage your team more effectively.

It’s particularly useful for senior managers, department heads and chief executives.

What does it cover?

Gain from years of research and evidence.

  • Practical advice, plus exercises to carry out alone – and with your team.
  • Based on solid academic and business theories about people management.
  • Examples of real life human stories.
  • Pinning down your aims and what you can realistically expect from people when they work together.

‘Debra Allcock Tyler has tackled a huge subject with real professionalism.’

Lindsay Boswell, CEO FareShare and former Chief Executive, Institute of Fundraising


‘This is the blueprint I’ve so desperately needed! The tips throughout the book have transformed not only how I understand my colleagues’ motivations and behaviours but my relationships outside work too. As an autistic person, I find it hard to figure out what makes people tick and how they make decisions. So this book has finally helped me articulate how my own brain works and to understand how other people operate too.’

Amy Lockwood, CEO, Oxford Hub 

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Have a look inside The Pleasure and the Pain.

About the author

Debra Allcock Tyler

Debra Allcock Tyler is CEO of the Directory of Social Change and has worked in management and consultancy for over 32 years. Author of several books on management and leadership, she has many years’ experience of training and coaching boards, chief executives and top teams. She is a popular public speaker and has appeared on Radio 4’s The Moral Maze. She has a regular monthly column in Third Sector magazine.

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